when love isn’t enough

For couples ready to do the work that terrifies most people

The Pattern You Know Too Well

You love each other. That's not the question.

The question is why you keep running the same script: the argument that goes nowhere, the wall that goes up, the way connection turns to disconnection in the space of a breath.

He checks out. She lashes out. Both of you want deeper intimacy, but your childhood wounds won't let you have it.

Sound familiar? You've tried communication techniques. You've read the books. But you keep ending up in the same patterns because the real work hasn't begun.

You're not broken. You're human. And you're bumping up against the edge that most couples never have the courage to face:

Real love requires you to become the people capable of loving that deeply.

This Work Isn't Couples Therapy

I don't fix your communication. I don't teach you conflict resolution techniques. I don't help you compromise your way to mediocrity.

Instead, I guide you through the shadow work that traditional therapy won't touch:

  • Individual responsibility within relationship - Each person doing their own healing work while staying committed to the container.

    • Not sure if you're both ready for couples work yet? Sometimes one partner needs to do their own healing first before the relationship can transform. [Explore individual coaching here]- many of my individual clients eventually bring their partners into the work when they're ready.

  • Embodiment practices - Getting out of your heads and into your bodies where real intimacy lives

  • Sexual polarity work - Discovering how your differences create attraction instead of conflict

  • Imago dialogue - Learning to meet each other's childhood wounds with adult love

  • Card 3 - Finding the truth that exists beyond your two positions

This is the work of freeing each other instead of imprisoning each other.

What Changes When You Do This Work

Your fights don't disappear. They transform.

Instead of running at the first sign of trouble, you develop the capacity to stay present with what wants to heal between you.

Instead of trying to change each other, you start seeing your partner's triggers as invitations to love more deeply.

Instead of settling for surface-level peace, you discover what it feels like when two people are truly seen, respected, and desired by each other.

Your hearts remember what drew you together in the first place.

how we work together

individual assessment

I meet with each of you separately to understand your patterns, wounds, and what you're actually committed to creating together.

couples container

We work together to establish safety, rebuild trust, and develop the tools for navigating your specific challenges. A typical session might involve one partner practicing vulnerability while the other learns to receive without fixing, or exploring how your sexual polarity creates attraction when honored rather than fighting when suppressed."

integration

You practice these new ways of being in your daily life, with ongoing support as you build this new relationship within your existing one.

Some couples benefit from nature-based components - we'll explore what serves your unique dynamic.

Investment & Commitment

3-month minimum commitment

bi-weekly calls
$650 per month

This work requires both partners to be fully invested. No exceptions.

I maintain space for only 2 couples at a time, ensuring you get my complete attention during this transformative process.

what to expect

month 1: safety & trust

  • Individual assessments

  • Creating safe container for honesty

  • Beginning shadow work practices

month 3: integration

  • Practicing new dynamics

  • Sexual polarity work

  • Building sustainable intimacy practices

month 2: pattern interrupt

  • Identifying destructive cycles

  • Learning to stay present during triggers

  • Embodiment practices together

ongoing: maintenance

  • Quarterly tune-ups available

  • Advanced couples intensives

  • Access to couples community

Is This For You?

Yes, if:

  • Both of you are committed to doing your individual work

  • You're willing to feel uncomfortable in service of deeper intimacy

  • You want to transform your patterns instead of just managing them

  • You're ready to discover what love looks like when it's not based on fear

No, if:

  • One of you is just going along to make the other happy

  • You're looking for someone to fix your relationship for you

  • You're not willing to examine your own contribution to the dynamic

  • You want quick fixes instead of lasting transformation

Ready to Begin?

The couples who thrive in this work are the ones who've tried everything else and are finally ready to try the one thing they've been avoiding:

Becoming the people capable of the love they actually want.

Your relationship isn't broken. It's asking you to grow.

The question is: are you both willing to answer that call?

In our initial conversation, we'll explore whether this work is right for both of you and design an approach that honors your unique dynamic and challenges.

frequently asked questions

  • This work requires both partners to be fully invested. If one person is dragging the other along, we'll address that directly in our initial call - and potentially refer the more motivated partner to individual mentorship first.

  • Couples therapy typically focuses on communication skills and conflict resolution. This work goes deeper - into the shadow patterns, childhood wounds, and unconscious dynamics that create the surface-level problems.

  • Absolutely. The dynamics of checking out vs. lashing out, individual shadow work, and sexual polarity exist regardless of gender configuration.

  • Some of my most successful couples work has been with partners on the edge of divorce. Sometimes the willingness to let the relationship die is exactly what allows it to be reborn.