My Philosophy

my belief

I believe that most of us are living half-lives. We've learned to breathe just enough to survive, feel just enough to function, risk just enough to stay safe. But safety is the most dangerous place to live. It’s the price we’ve decided to accept in exchange for giving up our real, true, sovereign life. It's where dreams go to die, where passion withers, where we trade our aliveness for the illusion of control.

I believe every human being carries within them a Radical Eros - a life force so pure, so instinctual, so aligned with truth that when unleashed, it transforms not just the person but everyone they touch.

This is about remembering who you were before the world taught you to hide.

The radical Trinity: Three Pillars of Wholeness

My work rests on three interconnected foundations. They're three dimensions of the same journey home to yourself.

Self-Integration: The Return to Your Original Face

Everything begins with radical self-acceptance. This is the deep recognition of every part of yourself, including the shadow, the light, the messy, and the magnificent.

This means descending into the crevices of your soul, excavating the pain you've buried, the rage you've swallowed, the grief you've avoided. It means looking at your patterns, your projections, your unconscious strategies. Only when we can hold all of ourselves with compassion can we show up authentically anywhere else.

The work here includes: Shadow integration, parts work, grief processing, inner child healing, somatic practices, and the kind of brutal honesty that most people spend their entire lives avoiding.

Intimacy: your Relationship as a Mirror

From this more integrated, resourced place, we can finally engage relationship as a spiritual practice. Our intimate connections become the laboratory where we discover what we're truly made of. Every trigger, every conflict, every moment of deep connection reveals something about ourselves we couldn't see alone.

Most people use relationships to hide from themselves. I teach how to use relationship to find yourself. When you're no longer abandoning parts of yourself to be loved, you can finally offer something real to another human being.

The work here includes: Attachment healing, nervous system co-regulation, sexual polarity, erotic blueprint work, communication that penetrates beyond the surface, and learning to stay present even when your partner's truth challenges everything you thought you knew about yourself.

Purpose: Living as Your Gift to the World

The integration you've done within yourself, the depth you've cultivated in relationship — these become the foundation for how you serve the world. Purpose isn't about finding your passion. It's about becoming so aligned with your essence that your very presence becomes a gift.

When you're living from your Radical Eros, your work stops being work. It becomes expression. It becomes service. It becomes the natural overflow of a life lived fully.

The work here includes: Discovering your unique gifts, understanding your soul's calling, creating from authenticity rather than strategy, and building a life that feeds your spirit while serving something greater than yourself.

the work

Fear as Ally: The Alchemy of Transformation

Most spiritual teachings tell you to transcend fear. I tell you to lean into it. Fear isn't the enemy - it's the guardian at the threshold of everything you've ever wanted.

Fear reveals the parts of ourselves we're afraid to show the world. It illuminates the edges where our false identities end and our authentic selves begin. Every fear you face is a doorway to more aliveness, more creativity, more love.

The alchemy happens when you stop running from fear and start dancing with it. When you can feel the trembling in your body and move forward anyway. When you can let your heart break open and discover that what you thought would destroy you actually liberates you.

From Fear to Awe: This is the transformation I guide people through. From the constricted breath of survival to the expanded breath of someone who trusts life completely.

Death as Liberation: Living Toward Completion

"Live fully so you can die complete."

I've died many deaths - one literal, and many symbolical. I’ve learned that death isn't morbid contemplation, but the ultimate teacher of what matters. When you truly feel the reality that this life is temporary, that every moment is unrepeatable, and that every breath is a gift, you stop wasting time on anything that doesn't feed your soul.

When you live toward this kind of completion, every day becomes sacred. Every choice becomes intentional. Every relationship becomes an opportunity to love more deeply.

The Way Forward: Integration in Action

My work isn't therapy, but it's therapeutic.

What I practice isn’t coaching, although it guides you toward your goals.

What I share isn't spiritual practice, but it will awaken what's sacred within you.

What I offer is an initiation - a return to who you were before you were told who you needed to be.

my process

Phase 1: Excavation. We dig into what's been buried. We feel what you've been avoiding. We name what's been unnamed. This isn't comfortable, but it's liberating.

Phase 2: Integration. We learn to hold all parts of yourself with compassion. We develop the somatic capacity to feel everything without being overwhelmed by anything.

Phase 3: Expression. We bring this integrated self into relationship, into purpose, into the world. We learn to create from essence rather than strategy.

Phase 4: Service. We discover how your personal transformation becomes your gift to the collective. We align your deepest healing with your deepest offering.

my commitment

I can't promise this work will make your life easier. In fact, it will likely make it more challenging in the short term. When you stop numbing, you feel everything. When you stop performing, people might not recognize you. When you start speaking truth, some relationships will end.

But if you do the work, what I can promise is this: You will never again have to live as a stranger to yourself. You will never again have to choose safety over aliveness. You will never again have to wonder "what if?"

This is the way of Radical Eros - returning to the root of who you are, trusting the life force that moves through you, and living with such authenticity that your very existence becomes a permission slip for others to do the same.

are we a fit?

This path is for men who are tired of performing masculinity and ready to embody it. Men who are successful on the outside but feel empty on the inside. Men who want to love and be loved at depths they've never experienced. Men who are ready to stop surviving and start thriving.

It's for men who understand that healing isn't weakness - it's the most courageous thing you can do. Men who are willing to feel their fear and move toward it anyway. Men who want to live a life so authentic, so purposeful, so connected that when their time comes, they can die complete.

"you can’t beat death but
you can beat death in life, sometimes.
and the more often you learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it."

— charles bukowski

TESTIMONIALS

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    "Ish is simply amazing! The way that he kept his presence with me made me feel heard, cared for, and inspired. I highly recommend Ish to anyone. You won't regret it, that's for sure!"

    Verena Gruber, Archeologist

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    "Ish is a one-of-a-kind individual, and I highly HIGHLY recommend you work with him, if you ever get the chance! He allows for you to process your emotions and thoughts in a way you may never have before."

    Nate Maertens, University Professor

  • "Ish has the beautiful gift of seeing your truth, of seeing what your eyes don’t see but your soul knows. He helped me to connect with my heart, moving from the stories in my mind to the feeling of inner knowing."

    James Morrissey, Data Scientist

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    "Over six sessions, I became clear of some of the blindspots around leadership and how I was showing up at work and in life. Through Ish’s support, I was able to make some potent breakthroughs that I wasn’t even aware of in the beginning, let alone break through them."

    MARK GOBIEN, TEAM LEAD

  • "Through our work, I developed deeper understanding of myself and how I behave for the first time in 35 years. It’s already showing in my relationship."

    Ryan Abrams, Software Developer

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    "Ish has the touch of a tender poet. His words are simple yet profound. His medicine flows forth, unabashed, as from a quiet roaring river."

    Thomas Clayton, Sound Wizard

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    Corinne Smth

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    "Ish is a brother I value deeply. He is a leader of breadth, quiet strength and heart."

    Speed Weed, TV Producer and Embodiment Coach

  • "Ish has true vision and force. His passion, rigor and patience is empowering. His capacity for observation and taking intuitive action is exemplary."

    Richard Burton, Lawyer

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    "Ish has genuine, authentic curiosity. That shows in his work and in his interactions. I’m grateful for his ability to hold space and his ability to direct in the most precise way, at the most precise time."

    Carlo Federiconi, Program Manager

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    "Ish has an uncanny ability to connect and understand where someone’s coming from."

    Quadri Akande, Solutions Engineer

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    "Ish is the man!! He is simply a model in terms of how to be a great presence to others. A natural diplomat and a person who will enrich your life."

    Simon Dragon, Hypnotherapist

  • "Ish encouraged me to pursue what I love because, in the end, it will pay off more than anything."

    Steve Sloane, Graduate Student

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    "Being in Ish’s container was the catalyst for my growth. This group helped push me to take some brave steps, including leaving Canada and returning back to Europe after 5 years, and forming my own group. It was life changing, and if you give this work a chance, I have no doubt it can change your life too."

    Kevin Rafalski, Carpenter

  • "Ish helped me find tools that I could use in my day-to-day life to stay grounded and more focused."

    Sofianne Yetto, Customer Success Specialist

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    "Ish did a beautiful job of helping me to feel deeply supported from the moment the session started right through till the end. I felt like I could deeply trust him to go wherever I needed to go in that. If you're thinking about working with Ish, I can't recommend him enough based on my experience of him."

    JACK BUNCE, Healing Guide and Breathwork Facilitator

  • "Ish has helped me to be aware of some parts of my character that I was not aware of in my whole life before. His immense care and devotion to my evolution has as helped to improve my knowledge on soft skills to better understand my personality and behavior with others, and how to shift them for betterment for all.”

    JANET MORA, Head of Customer Success

  • "The processes that we embarked were gut wrenching, soul cleansing, and felt like giving birth. The space that Ish holds is of true reverence to something deeper than many of us can touch, but only feel in our bones. It's been one of the greatest periods of my life. I would recommend him to anyone looking for a deeper dive into their soul.”

    Mikael Hayden, Leadership Coach

  • "I feel very inspired by Ish's work, his leadership skills and when it comes to stepping into my power and pushing through hardships and challenges, life throws at me as opportunities for growth. I can highly recommend working with Ish to anyone who is willing to do the work and may want some guidance of where to start or support on their individual journey. Thank you Ish!"

    Joel Rafalski, Cabinetmaker and Landscaper

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    "Ish has been an incredible catalyst for growth and change in my life. He's been someone I have trusted countless times to help me find the true voice of my soul, to learn to love and trust more deeply and live more authentically. His energy alone is medicine. I can't recommend this man's work enough!.”

    JASSY BLUE, WOMEN’S MENTOR